Goody two shoes

This post is for all those out there who have chosen to do good. To be good. The ones who deliberately choose to walk the straight and narrow path. Those who get labelled things like “Miss Goody Two Shoes” or “boring”, “unadventurous” and much more.

I hope this post inspires you.

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Here is my confession. I am that boring, predictable, good girl. I have always been.

This is not to say I have never had rebellious moments. Or that I have never made mistakes. I certainly have. But I’m the kind who generally errs on the side of caution. I do my best to avoid trouble.

And trouble generally didn’t bother looking for me either. I guess I was not worthy? Heh.

Anyway, I am writing this post today because I believe that there is a good enough reason for you to stick with your convictions if you are anything like me.

Some people may dismiss you as being dull or “no fun”, but look beyond that, and you will see there truly are rewards for striving to maintain innocence or to live by the righteous code that you believe in.

First off, I am a Christian, and have been so pretty much my whole life. My parents are church leaders, so like it or not, that has influenced my life in a big way. Of course, there came particular junctures in my life where I needed to decide for myself what my own beliefs would be, and I did. But mostly I stayed the course that I started off on because I saw the benefits of it.

Now, you may or may not come from a similar background as I do. In fact, you may even have a very different set of spiritual beliefs or moral code from the rest of your family or those you are close to.

But the thing is, there is a purpose for good in this world. For being kind, compassionate, upholding the truth and all other upright values. And God sees what we do, even when others don’t. And it is worth it.

One of the Bible passages that I remember learning as a child was that of Psalm 1. In it, there are the following words:

“For the Lord knows the way of the righteous,

But the way of the ungodly shall perish.”

– Psalm 1:6

Sometimes, nobody comes back to tell you how they were impacted by something good you did. But there are times that they do. And I have seen how it inspires someone else when we do good.

Another part of Psalm 1 goes like this:

“He shall be like a tree

Planted by the rivers of water,

That brings forth its fruit in its season,

Whose leaf also shall not wither,

And whatever he does shall prosper.”

– Psalm 1:3

I don’t know about you, but haters and spiteful people aside, generally choosing to do good only brings about positive effects. Not just to benefit the people around you, but it profits you as well in the long run.

The constant good you do eventually builds up into something big, even beyond what we may ever be able to imagine. Our actions, as people say, define us, and when we act righteously, we build a solid reputation for ourselves. And that opens doors to great things.

It gives us a platform to speak where people will listen. It opens up opportunities for work, relationships that may not exist otherwise. And it is because of the character we choose to develop within ourselves.

Of course, we do not always get it right. And we may not always have the right attitudes or perspectives. But we ought to keep trying. I certainly believe it is always worthwhile.

I wish I could think of a specific incident in my life to share with you right now to convince you of this, but I can’t think of one. (I will certainly write about it again if one comes to mind). All I can say though is that my whole life’s journey thus far has definitely proven to me personally that this is a choice worth making about the way I live.

I hope you will find it to be just as rewarding a decision too.

Worthy words

I remember the absurdity of the words once uttered to my husband and I when we were just on the brink of entering parenthood. I was eager to listen, hoping for a precious nugget of wisdom from these more experienced hands, but all I got was this:

Better go and watch as much movies as you like. Once the child is here, you won’t be able to do that for awhile.

And that was all.

I must say, I was rather disappointed. In hindsight, of course, I can understand why this person said what they had, but honestly, missing out on being at the cinema these past few years hasn’t really been that big a deal for me. I know for some it might be, and my husband is one of them, but it isn’t that important to me.

I wonder now what I would or should say to new parents. Would I have something useful to proffer or would it be something they would just brush off as trivial the way I did? What is worth saying?

I probably will have to rethink this many more times, but for now, this is what I can think of:

Congratulations on being brave enough to embark on this long term journey we know as parenthood. It is not without its challenges, but it also has an equally generous servings of joy and fulfillment. Sacrifices will be made. Things will be undoubtedly different. But you will find that mostly the good will outweigh the bad.

God will give you the grace to face each season that comes your way with this child. The world around you will confuse you with its endless streams of opinions and advice. Take what you need, ignore what is unnecessary. You have all it takes to parent your child. Only you know them best.

Let your home henceforth be filled with kindness:

Gentleness and patience to instruct and guide the little one;

Tolerance towards your spouse for all shortcomings, present and future;

And most importantly, forgiveness towards yourself, that on the days you are not proud of what you did in the heat of a moment, you can rest assured that a lifetime of love covers a multitude of mistakes.