I think the way expectations are set up for apologies makes it way too easy for “I’m sorry” to be said and for grievances to be brushed off.
That since it’s expected of gracious human beings to forgive, it is entirely possible to do whatever you like and then come apologising for it later on.
Because if the other person doesn’t forgive you, then it’s all on them.
You’re not perfect, are you? So you should forgive. It’s an expected response.
Never mind that you don’t like the options left to you because of someone else’s mistakes. You were given options… so can you afford to be ungrateful?
Suddenly, even though you’re not the one who made a slip-up, you can quickly turn into the one to blame. And it’s something that can even be taken offence of.
Such a sad state of affairs. Sometimes I wish being kind wasn’t my life goal. Then I can be ruthless and rude and not care about consequences.